We know: Butt plugs can be super fun.

It’s not surprising that you’d want to enjoy that frisky feeling all day long. It certainly could make the day-to-day a lot more fun, amirite?

But before you attempt to wear a butt plug for an extended period, there are some things you need to know.

The truth is that dating as a gay, bi+, or pansexual man can be as messy, unfulfilling, and complicated as “Queer As Folk” makes it seem.

But it doesn’t have to be. These tips can help!