Masturbating With Crystal Sex Toys
When I met Chakrubs founder Vanessa Cuccia at an event showcasing her crystal wands, eggs, and other adult products designed for spiritual healing, I was intrigued but, understandably, a little skeptical. Could a sex toy really put you in touch with your feelings, bring you closer to your partner, and strengthen your intuition, all through the power of crystals, as she claimed? C'mon.
According to Cuccia, crystals emit positive frequencies that make their mark on you, especially when you combine them with conscious intention and sexual pleasure. Different types of stones, she says, contain different energies, and after using them on your most intimate areas, you can absorb some of that energy.
I figured something potentially energy-altering was at least worth a try. I took the rose wand, a curved rose quartz stone with a little head at the end, for a spin. The wand retails for the decidedly not-cheap price of $189.95, but hey, energy alteration is priceless, right?
The first thing that struck me when I took the wand out of its case was how cold it was. Like, cold enough that I was anxious to put it near my nether regions. But it warmed up quickly once I put it in—almost like it was responding to me in real time. (My Chakrub and I were in this together!)
I'll admit I was in foreign territory with this particular sex toy since it didn't vibrate or naturally lend itself to external use, like most of the other sex toys I've reviewed. I frankly didn't know what to do with it at first. As it heated up, though, I got into a rhythm of moving it slightly in and out while using my other hand to stroke my clit. It was a break from my routine, but it didn't disappoint.
Does it work as a sex toy? Yes. But the most amazing part of the experience was what happened immediately after I finished using it. I was suddenly feeling allthe feels. During a Skype session with a friend afterward, I found myself getting all emotional about how much she meant to me. Before I knew it, I was confessing that I was afraid of losing friends in my adult life because I was still emotionally scarred from the ways I didn't fit in as a teenager. I didn't even know that was an issue for me! Where was this coming from?!
I described this interaction in an email to Cuccia, and she responded, "What you experienced is completely what Chakrubs is intended to do and has done for many people." What?
After continuing to use the rose wand over the next few days, these effects amplified. I actually teared up at a story about my dad's late dog, which is unusual for me. It's not that I don't feel strong feelings, of course, but I'm typically not that outwardly emotional. Instead of getting irritated by babies crying on the subway, I felt bad for them. It was like I'd unlocked this repressed side of myself that was full of compassion and empathy.
I also developed a deep, intuitive confidence in my real-life decisions. I was no longer freaking out when I fell behind on work or overanalyzing what to order at restaurants. The general anxieties that typically plague me started coming up to the surface and then dissipating. I hadn't felt this relaxed in months.
So does all this actually relate to the Chakrub I was using? The rose quartz wand's description calls the crystal "a stone of the heart, a crystal of unconditional love. It carries a soft feminine energy of compassion and peace, tenderness and healing, nourishment and comfort. It speaks directly to the heart chakra, dissolving emotional wounds, fears, and resentments, and circulates a divine loving energy throughout the entire aura. Reawakening the heart to its own innate love, it provides a deep sense of personal fulfillment and contentment, allowing one the capacity to truly give and receive love from others. It dissolves the sorrows, worries, fears, and resentments suppressing the heart's ability to give and receive love."
Sure, I could attribute my sense of inner peace to nice weather or some other, unrelated event. Maybe it was just a placebo and these changes happened in my head. But I'm pretty convinced it's the result of using this crystal sex toy. Does this make me a believer in the power of crystals? I think so. (And even if the energy adjustment is all in my head, the orgasms certainly weren't.)