Chronic Pain Made My Sex Life Better, Not Worse

“Just like how I knew nothing about queer sex until I started having it, I knew nothing about having sex as a spoonie—someone living with chronic pain—until I became one. I couldn’t imagine either of these realities, because when I looked around as a child and teen, I never saw it. I had to invent my own sex as I went. The first time I had sex with another spoonie, my body was a nightmare. I’d been run over by a car three years prior, and after surgery I learned not only would I have to relearn to walk, but I would also be in pain for the rest of my life. We’d been roadtripping throughout the U.S. for weeks and I was sore, exhausted, and freezing. My lover laid me down next to our small, West Virginia fire and asked if I wanted to have sex. She had broad shoulders, rods in her back, and a shaved head. “Yes,” I said.”

In this Vice article by Sara Youngblood Gregory, the writer discusses reclaiming her body and sexuality after a traumatic accident left her with chronic pain. Find the full article here